Like going to the doctor, people often put off consulting with a divorce attorney because they are afraid to hear bad news or cannot bear to face the problem.  This is the worst thing you can do for your divorce case.  In a divorce, knowledge is power and a promptly scheduled consultation with a reputable divorce attorney is one of the best ways to get it.  Keep these things in mind to help dispel the anxiety and stress that accompany many people to their first meeting with a divorce lawyer.

First, remember that the attorney you are consulting with is on your side.  We understand that you have likely never done this before, that you are scared, and that you need information. During your consultation we will give you information of the law as it applies to your case, work to identify the major issues in your case, and attempt to provide you with a realistic assessment of your options.  Our goal is to achieve the best possible outcome for you – you are hiring a divorce attorney to be your advocate. 

In order to assess your case and give you the information you need, understand that we need information from you.  During your consultation we will delve into personal issues like the history of your marriage, what you think might have led to the divorce, your relationship with your children, and the status of your finances. Know that what you say to us in your initial consultation and throughout the attorney-client relationship is confidential. Do not be afraid to be honest – that is one of the most essential aspects of a successful attorney-client relationship. You will not shock us with what you say and we will not judge you. 

While we will give you our assessment of your case and provide you with information on the law and your legal rights, do not be afraid to ask questions.   Let us know what is important to you and what you want to know. Your initial consultation with a divorce attorney should be a safe place for you to get the information you need to better understand the process and to begin making sense of the confusion swirling around you.