The day after Valentine’s Day is usually a busy day on the divorce attorney’s calendar.  But, are you ready for a divorce? It’s often hard as well as stressful to decide on divorcing. Significant damage can be done to both couples and children alike if not thought through properly. Before making a divorce a final decision, a Divorce Attorney Dallas Texas can help you and your spouse go through some important questions. Try to reflect on the following questions before considering divorce:

Do you know exactly why you are contemplating a divorce?

The most important question for you and your mate to find the answer to is the reason you are thinking about divorce. The divorce itself might become a problem if you don’t fully evaluate why the action need to be taken. If a fight was involved, let things cool off before breaching the subject again. Take your time and go over the reasons one by one. Divorcing is not an action that should be taken lightly; it should not be done on impulse or when negativity is all around.

I don’t think there is any hidden reasons at the back of our decision.

Please ensure you have enough valid reasons for proposing divorce. Focus on solving these underlying problems instead of immediately opting for separation. One example of this is mentioning divorce as a way of voicing frustrations about your marriage, or just to manipulate or threaten your partner. If this is the case, then divorce might not be the solution you are looking for. You might want to seek marriage counseling or couple’s therapy instead.

Do you know the resulting effects that are involved?

When filing for divorce, you should consider many factors. Bear in mind that it can have an effect on you and your spouse’s individual and common goals. It is a stressful situation and effects your emotions and finance. Children and other family members gets affected by divorce. Carefully assess the worst possible scenario, which could emanate from your plan. Then decide if you can or at least will be willing to accept these dire consequences. Ask yourself if you have the ability to help your children cope, or if you have a support system that is readily available to help you through the painful divorce process. Denying or repressing the negative aspects of the divorce will only make things harder for you and later on other people involved with you in this divorce.

Will you be able to act maturely after the divorce?

Don’t think of divorce simply as a one-time legal decision to cease a relationship because its effects last beyond the legal proceedings and technicalities. Ask yourself if you are willing to let go of any resentments you have towards your spouse and whether you are willing to take responsibility for the decision you made. Your attitude will affect how you move on after the separation; it will also help to set the foundation for your new, post divorce life.

Spouses need to be aware that deciding to get a divorce is quite serious. Its negative effects can become long-term if the decision is not thought through properly.

Article credit to Jacob Schiffer from ezinemark.com.

 

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Michelle May O’Neil has 27 years’ experience representing small business owners, professionals, and individuals in litigation related to family law matters such as divorce, child custody, and complex property division. Described by one lawyer as “a lethal combination of sweet-and-salty”, Ms. O’Neil exudes…

Michelle May O’Neil has 27 years’ experience representing small business owners, professionals, and individuals in litigation related to family law matters such as divorce, child custody, and complex property division. Described by one lawyer as “a lethal combination of sweet-and-salty”, Ms. O’Neil exudes genuine compassion for her client’s difficulties, yet she can be relentless when in pursuit of a client’s goals. One judge said of Ms. O’Neil, “She cannot be out-gunned, out-briefed, or out-lawyered!”

Family Law Specialist

Ms. O’Neil became a board-certified family law specialist by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization in 1997 and has maintained her certification since that time. While representing clients in litigation before the trial court is an important part of her practice, Ms. O’Neil also handles appellate matters in the trial court, courts of appeals and Texas Supreme Court. Lawyers frequently consult with Ms. O’Neil on their litigation cases about specialized legal issues requiring particularized attention both at the trial court and appellate levels. This gives her a unique perspective and depth of perception that benefits both her litigation and appellate clients.

Top Lawyers in Texas and America

Ms. O’Neil has been named to the list of Texas SuperLawyers for many years, 2011-2018, a peer-voted honor given to only about 5% of the lawyers in the state of Texas. In 2014-2018, Ms. O’Neil received the special honor of being named by Texas SuperLawyers as one of the Top 50 Women Lawyers in Texas, Top 100 Lawyers in Texas, and Top 100 Lawyers in DFW. She was named one of the Best Lawyers in America for 2016 and received an “A-V” peer review rating by Martindale-Hubbell Legal Directories for the highest quality legal ability and ethical standards.

Author and Speaker

A noted author, Ms. O’Neil released her second book Basics of Texas Divorce Law in November 2010, with a second edition released in 2013, and a third edition expected in 2015.  Her first book, All About Texas Law and Kids, was published in September 2009 by Texas Lawyer Press. In 2012, Ms. O’Neil co-authored the booklets What You Need To Know About Common Law Marriage In Texas and Social Study Evaluations.  The State Bar of Texas and other providers of continuing education for attorneys frequently enlist Ms. O’Neil to provide instruction to attorneys on topics of her expertise in the family law arena.