Dallas Same Sex Custody Dispute: Battle For Recognition of Parental Rights by LGBT Parents

Child custody battles are always difficult, and can be ugly. But a recent Dallas child custody dispute shows the lengths that gay parents must go to fight for the right to parent their non-biological children if they split up from the child’s biological parent. In the case fought out in Dallas family law courtrooms, a Texas mother petitioned for custody of a child she had raised since birth with her lesbian partner (the child’s biological mother).

The former partner denied the non-biological parent’s right to child custody and a three-and-a-half year legal battle ensued as the non-biological mother sought to have her parental rights recognized in Texas courts. Ultimately, she was successful on the first hurdle of her child custody battle: the right to sue for child custody (referred to as standing). But after nearly four years of emotional and financial costs, and no guarantee that she would win physical or legal custody rights, the mother decided to end her legal battle. In a statement released to the press, the mother said that she chose her daughter’s quality of life and happiness over being right.

Legal Options for Gay Parents to Maintain Parental Relationships

While recognition of the status of same-sex relationships is advancing state-by-state, same-sex partners (and former partners) still face precarious legal status on many issues including recognition of marriage, civil unions, and partnerships, rights to parent children from a same-sex partnership, inheritance rights, and rights to make end-of-life decisions, among many other civil rights.

In Texas, lesbian and gay parents now have the right to sue for child custody if other Texas courts decide to follow the precedent established by the Texas appeals court in the Dallas same-sex custody case (The Texas Supreme Court denied review of the decision, which gives it more weight). But whether a gay or lesbian parent will be awarded child custody is another matter. In most cases, a gay or lesbian parent will stand on firmer ground if the mother or father adopts the child or children. Adoption gives the non-biological parent a legal recognition of their parental rights. For advice and counsel on this evolving area of the law, consult a Texas family law attorney with experience working with LGBT issues.

How Does a Gay Break Up Differ From A Straight Divorce

Frederick Hertz asks in the Huffington Post Blog Is Gay Divorce Any Different Than Straight Divorce?  He points to three areas where gay breakups are different:  historical legacy, legal complexities, and cultural dimensions.  Historically speaking, same sex couples could not marry until recently in any state.  So, most same sex couples in long-term relationships have spent a good amount of time living outside of traditional marital law.  This means that a same sex couple's breakup may have some issues that straddle the lines between nonmarital relationships and traditional marital law.  I think Hertz, an attorney in California where gay marriage is recognized, means a situation where maybe the couple gets married in California but owns property in a state that does not recognize their marriage, creating difficulties in dividing assets and such.

The second place that same sex breakups differ from straight divorce addresses the inherent legal complexities in same sex relationships.

For some same-sex partners, the inability to legally marry relegates their break-up to the murky world of non-marital law, which often involves complex theories of equitable partition, implied contracts, and partnership law. It can also create serious problems around the parentage and custody of kids. See www.NCLRights.org for more about those issues. And, even for those whose lives are covered by marital law (because they live in a recognition state and entered into a formal registration or marriage), the lack of federal recognition can create serious confusion or even blatant discrimination. There is no tax recognition of the spousal relationship, and so transfers of assets can trigger capital gains, income, or gift tax liabilities. The ERISA rules preclude the assignment of a pension or retirement benefit, which also can lead to additional taxation and enforcement problems for divorcing couples. Because of the legal complexities, fewer divorce lawyers know how to handle same-sex dissolutions, and so even finding a qualified lawyer can be a challenge.

 

The third difference involves the cultural differences between gay people in general and straight people.  For example, the traditional gender roles that apply (globally speaking) to straight folks may not apply to gay couples.  And, gay people may have resistence to involvement with the judicial system.

My opinion is that every couple, gay or straight, has their own dynamic and set of "issues".  Putting any couple "in a box" of stereotypes is impossible.  Breakups between same sex couples are more complex because, at least in the context of Texas divorce law, there's very little law that directly defines their relationship or breakup.  The courts have ruled that we don't have gay divorce in Texas. The most common sensical approach for a gay couple is to solidify their relationship in the beginning with a domestic partner agreement that defines the rules as they apply to that couple and contractually determines how they will break up.  There is also a lot of litigation right now regarding nonparent custody in Texas -- including same sex custody suits.  Although the boundaries of when a nonparent may sue for custody of a child that is not biologically or adoptively related to them remain murky, there are an abundance of cases exploring the issues.

Lambda Legal has a great chart that summarizes the current state of affairs for same-sex couples. Check it out at: http://www.lambdalegal.org/publications/articles/nationwide-status-same-sex-relationships.html

 

Dallas Judge Tena Callahan Speaks Publicly For The First Time Since Her Controversial Ruling

Judge Tena Callahan made national headlines this month when she ruled that a Dallas gay couple could seek a divorce in Texas to terminate the marriage granted by the State of Massachusets.  See my prior post:  Dallas Judge:  Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional

Judge Callahan spoke publicly this week for the first time since her ruling at a meeting of the Dallas Stonewall Democrats.  The Dallas Voice reported on the meeting and her speech last night online Callahan: It's always time to do the right thing by John Wright:

Judge Tena Callahan stood at the front of the room inside Ojeda’s Restaurant in Dallas on Tuesday, Oct. 20, and held up a small, red cloth bag.

Callahan said she has “millions” of bags like it, because they’re frequently given to judges and attorneys at legal seminars. She said she uses them for groceries and leaves them hanging over a chair in her dining room.

But Callahan said it was this particular bag — and the quotation printed on the back — that ultimately helped her muster the courage she needed to recently declare Texas’ marriage amendment unconstitutional.

“I was sitting at my dining room table and I was thinking, I’ve got to make this decision, I’ve got to rip this Band-Aid off and I’ve got to make this decision,” Callahan said, adding that she wasn’t struggling with the constitutional principle behind the ruling, but with the backlash she was sure to face.

“My dad always used to tell me that a billion people can believe in a bad idea, and it’s still a bad idea. And that man taught me to have the courage of my convictions and to do what’s right

— it’s always the right time to do the right thing. And as I’m sitting there and all this is going through my head, I’m looking at the back of this bag, and I went, ‘Oh my God, I just got my answer.’

“‘Let us have faith that right makes might,’” Callahan said, reading from the back of the bag, “and in that faith, let us to the end dare to do our duty as we understand it. — Abraham Lincoln.”

“I do my duty,” Callahan said. “That’s what you elected me to do.”
As Callahan concluded her brief remarks, fellow members of Stonewall Democrats of Dallas gave her a standing ovation, just as they had when she took the microphone.

Judge Callahan also commented on the application of the U.S. Constitution:

“And when I got to reading the Constitution of the United States of America, which Texas is still a part of, I was never more sure of just how much you and I are the very same and how important it is that that constitution protect you, because if it doesn’t protect you, then it doesn’t protect me, and I want it to protect me,” she said.

“It’s not there to protect the majority. In a democracy, majority rules. Who needs the silly constitution when you’re ruling? But when you overreach, when you step out of your bounds, when you apply the same laws differently to people who are just the same, that’s what it’s there for. …

“It is a wonderful, living, breathing document, and it protects us all,” Callahan said.

Callahan said she was only doing her job when she issued the ruling and she credited those in the room with being “smart enough” to help elect her and other Democrats in 2006. She encouraged them to do “the right thing” again in 2010 by supporting Democratic candidates, including several who attended Tuesday’s meeting.

 Hat Tip to Kris for pointing me to this article!

Dallas Judge: Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional: UPDATE

Dallas 302nd state District Judge Tena Callahan ruled Thursday that the state's bans on same-sex marriage violates the constitutional guarantee to equal protection under the law. She said her court "has jurisdiction to hear a suit for divorce filed by persons legally married in another jurisdiction."  Her ruling clears the way for two gay men to legally divorce in Texas. 

Judge Tena Callahan investiture

The men legally married in Cambridge, Massachusets, in 2006 and later moved to Dallas. In Janauary 2009, one of the spouses filed for divorce.  The marriage, one of the spouses said, was not entered into lightly, and after 11 years together, the breakup is painful.

A voter-approved state constitutional amendment and the Texas Family Code prohibit same-sex marriages or civil unions.  The approval of the Texas Marriage Amendment by voters in Nov. 2005 specified the definition of marriage in the Texas Constitution as the union of one man and one woman. It protects the longstanding social practice of recognizing only the union of a man and a woman as a marriage, and reinforced the Texas Defense of Marriage Act of 2003 prohibiting any political entity in the state from recognizing the union of two people of the same gender.

The Texas attorney general had intervened in the two men’s divorce case, arguing that since a gay marriage isn’t recognized in Texas, a Texas court can’t dissolve one through divorce.  Judge Callahan denied the AG's intervention, which, of course, the AG promises to appeal.  The AG said, "In the State of Texas, marriage is – and has always been – a union between one man and one woman. To prevent other states from imposing their values on this state, Texas voters overwhelmingly approved a Constitutional amendment specifically defining marriage as a union of one man and one woman," he said in a written statement. "Because the parties' Massachusetts-issued arrangement is not a marriage under Texas law, they are asking a Texas court to recognize – and dissolve – something that does not legally exist."

The Dallas lawyer representing the spouse filing for the divorce said he will argue that the men have that right under Article IV, Section 1 of the U.S. Constitution. The so-called Full Faith and Credit Clause provides, in part, that states recognize contracts from other states – that the marriage bond, he said, is universal.  He also argued that the ruling violates the guarantee for equal protection under the law.

Expect an immediate and hasty appeal to the Dallas court of appeals and likely the Texas Supreme Court on this one.  I'm sure the AG will file a mandamus action in the court of appeals to prohibit the divorce from proceeding.  The Dallas court of appeals will likely stay the divorce proceedings while the mandamus proceeds.  Then, regardless of the result of the case, the losing party will likely seek mandamus in the Texas Supreme Court, where the divorce proceeding will continue to be stayed.  It is not out of the question for the case to be filed with the U.S. Supreme Court for determination. 

Judge Tena Callahan is a Democrat elected in the 2006 Democrat sweep of the Dallas County courthouse.  Prior to election to the 302nd bench, Judge Callahan practiced law as a family law attorney in Dallas County for 15 years.  Judge Callahan received her undergraduate degree from the University of Texas and her law degree from St. Mary's School of Law.  In her 2006 campaign, she was endorsed as Qualified by the Committee for a Qualified Judiciary and the Dallas Morning News editorial board.  The Dallas Bar Association's Chris Robison with the DBA Publications Committee profiled Judge Callahan.

On the other hand, the Dallas Court of Appeals is considered to be one of the most conservative courts in the State.  Dominated by nine republican justices who are elected over a five county region consisting not only of Democrat-leaning Dallas County, but also uber-conservative Collin County and Grayson, Hunt, Rockwall and Kaufman counties.  Likewise, the Texas Supreme Court is made up of justices mostly appointed by either Governor Perry or Bush and it is largely considered to be one of the most conservative groups of justices on the Court ever.

Although many will consider this ruling to be a win for the GLBT sector, based on the level of conservatism of the justices in line to hear this case, it is extremely doubtful that this ruling will last very long.  No doubt, in the meantime, it will provide a national spotlight for Dallas County and Judge Callahan.

Hat tip to Roy Appleton of the Dallas Morning News for the article Dallas judge paves way for gay couple to get divorce October 1, 2009.  See also Roy Appleton's article Dallas same-sex divorce case a first for Texas on January 23, 2009.

Update:

This case has received expected national media attention.  This blog was quoted in the Gay Couples Law Blog (shout out to Gideon Alper!)

Also, NBC5 in Dallas has run a story on the issue, CBS11 in Dallas has interviewed Judge Callahan where she reiterates that the judicial ethics canons prevent her from discussing the case, the Wall Street Journal blog discussed the case, as did USA Today, and the Associated Press ran the story.

Not surprisingly, this issue is hot and being talked about.  I can tell you that Judge Callahan is a thoughtful, wise judge who (obviously!) has no problem doing what she thinks is right, without regard to politics or media coverage or anything else.  I've practiced in front of her since she became a judge.  I've won some and lost some in front of her.  But, I've never doubted her conviction for calling "balls and strikes" as she sees them!