Lesbian Custody Rights Going to Trial

The Dallas Voice reported today on the Dallas County lesbian custody case being returned by the Texas Supreme Court to trial.  David Taffet, reporter with the Voice, noted on the standard that the non-biological mother will have to meet to see her daughter.

Read the entire article here: Vowels Case Returned to Trial Court for Hearing

Dallas Gay parenting advocate attorney Michelle May O’Neil explained that non-biological parents in custody and visitation cases have to meet what is called the Troxel standard, named after a U.S. Supreme Court ruling in a child custody case.

“The presumption is that parents act in the best interest of their children,” O’Neil said.

Vowels said her former partner is a good mother. But whether or not Vowels gains custody could revolve on whether she and her attorneys can show any flawed decision-making on the part of her former partner.

“The flaw is that she unilaterally ripped the child from someone the child called mom,” O’Neil said.

O’Neil said that the case is being cited around the state and will affect heterosexual stepparents, grandparents and other caregivers as well. “It’s legally the same question,” O’Neil said.

The article points out that the way to avoid being in a custody battle like the one that Ms. Vowels find herself is to adopt the non-biological child as soon as possible after the birth, while the relationship remains on good terms.  Trying to adopt after the break-up is too late.

For more information about the Vowels Case, see these prior blog posts:

Rights of Gay Parent Head to Trial in Dallas County, Texas

Dallas Divorce Lawyer Quoted by Dallas Voice Newspaper

Green Light for Suit for Access to Child by Lesbian Nonparent

 

 

Rights of Gay Parent Head to Trial in Dallas County, Texas

 Texas Supreme Court returns custody case between lesbian parent and partner to Dallas District Court for trial

The rights of a lesbian partner to participate in parenting her former partner’s child will be set for trial in the 302nd Judicial District Court.  After the Texas Supreme Court declined to hear the biological parent’s appeal challenging the partner’s right to sue for access to the child, the Dallas Court of Appeals returned the case to the trial court. 

Kristie Vowels and Tracy Scourfield were a couple for more than four years and decided together to have a child, conceived by Scourfield by artificial insemination.  A year after the child’s birth, the couple broke up and Scourfield moved out of Vowels’ home with the child.  Vowels continued to have contact with the child by agreement on a schedule similar to that of divorced heterosexual parents.  Following a disagreement between Scourfield and Vowels, Scourfield denied Vowels access to the child, resulting in Vowels filing suit for court-ordered access to the child.

A three-judge panel of the Dallas Court of Appeal issued a controversial ruling in December 2009 that Vowels had the right to seek access to the child based on a law that provides a person with the right to sue for such rights after she has had actual care, control and possession of the child for at least 90-days prior to filing the suit.  Vowels’ access by agreement with Scourfield was deemed to be sufficient to meet the requirements of the statute.

Scourfield sought to have the Texas Supreme Court overturn the decision of the Dallas Court of Appeals.  The Texas Supreme Court declined to hear the case on May 28, 2010.  Scourfield had a certain timeframe following the Texas Supreme Court’s denial to request reconsideration of that ruling.  Because she did not, the Texas Supreme Court sent the case back to the Dallas Court of Appeals which, in turn, returned the case to the Dallas district court for trial.

“Our fight is not finished, but only beginning,” saidMichelle May O’Neil, Dallas family law attorney representing Vowels.  “We have to return to the district court and show the judge why it is in the best interest of the child that Ms. Vowels have access to the child.”

“I have been waiting for so long just to get someone to listen to why I should be involved in my child’s life,” said Vowels.  “I’m just grateful that, after so long, I will finally be given that chance.”

The trial will be held in front of Judge Tena Callahan, who ruled in October of 2009 that two gay men, legally married in Massachusets in 2006, had the right to seek divorce in a Texas court.  That case remains pending on appeal.

See the original opinion in In Re M.K.S. (pdf version).

See my prior posts Dallas Divorce Lawyer Quoted by Dallas Voice Newspaper and Green Light for Suit for Access to Child by Lesbian Nonparent

 

Same Sex Couple Divorce and Parenting Issues

On Thursday, June 17, I will be participating as a panelist in the State Bar of Texas Family Law Update:  Same Sex Couple Divorce/Parenting Issues webcast seminar. 

This two-hour webcast is intended to inform the family law practitioner about recent developments in same-sex family law cases. Dallas and Austin have both recently litigated gay divorces; the 5th and 9th Courts of Appeal have recently issued opinions addressing standing for same-sex parents.

  • WHO is most affected by same-sex family law cases?
  • WHAT can practitioners do with cutting-edge lawyering?
  • WHERE will standing end up, with the split of opinions among appellate courts?
  • WHEN is a parent not a parent?
  • WHY can’t couples legally married in other jurisdictions get divorced in Texas?

Advising same-sex couples can have long-term ramifications for the best interests of children, and need to anticipate upcoming changes in the law, both locally and nationally. Join us to see the latest developments from the attorneys on the front lines. 

This seminar is approved by the Texas Bar for continuing legal education with 2 hours credit. The seminar is sponsored by the Sexual Orientation and Gender Identification Issues Section of the State Bar of Texas.

I am very excited to be on this panel and plan to learn more than I teach!  Other speakers on the panel include:

1. Ms. Jennifer R. Cochran, Austin
Attorney at Law

Read Jennifer's Blog Here:  The Zealous Advocate

2. Ms. Karen J. Langsley, Dripping Springs
Attorney at Law

3. Ms. Michelle May O'Neil, Dallas
O'Neil Anderson

4. Mr. Peter Schulte, Dallas
Schulte & Apgar

Mr. Schulte has been in the news a great deal lately, representing one member of the gay couple seeking a divorce in Dallas.  That case remains pending on appeal in the Dallas Court of Appeals.

See my prior posts on that case:

  1. Dallas Judge: Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional: UPDATE
  2. Dallas Judge Tena Callahan Speaks Publicly For The First Time Since Her Controversial Ruling

Time Magazine has also written on this topic recently, discussing the gay divorce cases pending both in Dallas and in Austin, Can Gay Couples Divorce Where They Can't Marry?

The cost of the webcast seminar is $135. 

Webcast registration is only available online and by using a credit card. Go to TexasBarCLE.com and select 'Webcasts' from the menu. Registrations by mail, fax, or phone will not be accepted.

We encourage early registrations to give you time to verify that your system is webcast-ready. Our technical support lines are usually extremely busy on the day of a webcast, so be please register and test your system a few days ahead of the webcast date.

Dallas Divorce Lawyer Quoted by Dallas Voice Newspaper

Today, The Dallas Voice ran an article about the M.K.S. appeal that we won this week.  It is a well-written update about the case and the backstory.

A lesbian custody battle could be headed back to Dallas County Judge Tena Callahan’s courtroom after a three-judge panel of the 5th District Court of Appeals, in a surprise move, reversed itself and ruled that Kristie Vowels does have standing to sue for joint custody of her child with a former partner.

Michelle May O’Neill, Vowels’ attorney, said Wednesday, Dec. 2 that the ruling handed down the previous day had come as a complete surprise, since the three-judge panel had already ruled against Vowels in a September decision.

“In September, they issued a ruling that basically created new law in cases like [Vowels’],” O’Neill said. “This ruling held Kris to a very high standard to have standing to sue for custody, and the judges said she didn’t meet that standard. We filed a motion for a rehearing and they denied it. Then we filed a motion for an en banc hearing.”

She explained that appeals are usually heard first by a three-judge panel, but those dissatisfied with the panel’s ruling can file a motion for the entire nine-judge appeals court — en banc — to reconsider a case.

“We filed that about two months ago, and it just sat there. That made me pretty nervous. Usually, they rule pretty quickly on those motions,” O’Neill said. “Then I got an e-mail [Tuesday, Dec. 1]. It said the three judges had vacated their earlier ruling and issued a new opinion that was in our favor. They said that Kris does have standing to sue for custody.”

Scourfield’s lawyers have 45 days to appeal that ruling to the Texas Supreme Court. If they do not appeal, at the end of those 45 days, the case goes back to Callahan’s 302nd District Court for trial.

Vowels and Tracy Scourfield had been a couple for more than four years and had gone through counseling to help them decide whether to have a child together when Scourfield gave birth to their daughter, conceived through artificial insemination, on May 21, 2004.

A little more than a year later, the two women broke up and Scourfield and the little girl moved out of Vowels’ home, although Vowels’ continued to help support the child financially and the women agreed to and operated on a visitation schedule very similar to what is considered “standard visitation” in a heterosexual custody case.

The three-judge panel, in its latest ruling written by Justice Martin E. Richter, described the visitation schedule as allowing Vowels “regular access to and possession of the child.”

But in April 2007, Scourfield abruptly cut off Vowels’ contact with the child. A month later Vowels filed suit in Callahan’s court, seeking conservatorship with a legally binding visitation schedule.

Associate Judge Christine Collie ruled in August 2007 that Vowels did not have standing to sue for custody, and Callahan later affirmed that decision.
Vowels appealed the decision to the 5th Circuit in May 2008.

“We expected the appeal to take six months. It took 18 months,” O’Neill said this week.

She said that even if Scourfield does not appeal to the state Supreme Court, or if she does and that court upholds the appeals court’s opinion, Vowels still would have a fight ahead of her.

“If the ruling remains in place, we still have to go back to Judge Callahan’s court, and she will have to make a decision based on what is best for the child. We’re not out of the woods yet, but at least now we have the right to be on the playground,” O’Neill said.

But, she added, a ruling Callahan handed down in a separate LGBT-related case this year could be a good sign for Vowels.

Callahan in October ruled that two gay men legally married in Massachusetts in 2006 did have the right to seek a divorce in a Texas court, and that Texas’ constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage did itself violate the U.S. Constitution.

“We know from that ruling [in the gay divorce case] that Tena Callahan is a very brave and assertive judge who’s not afraid to push the envelope when it’s something she thinks is right,” O’Neill said. “She is an outstanding judge, and Dallas County is lucky to have judges of her caliber on the bench.”

O’Neill also said Callahan’s ruling in the divorce case might have played a role in the appeals court’s unusual move in vacating its earlier decision in Vowels’ case.

“It’s very strange. I wish I did know why it happened,” O’Neill said of the court’s reversal. “Maybe Tena Callahan’s ruling in the divorce case had something to do with it. Maybe they just realized that more sympathy is being shown now to people in Kris’ position. I don’t know why they did it. I just know it’s wonderful that they did it.”

Vowels herself said she was surprised and grateful for the appeals court’s ruling.

“We’ve been waiting for so long, and I am just very humbly grateful,” Vowels said Wednesday, adding that even after O’Neill called and told her the news on Tuesday, it took a while for it to really sink in.

“I was up all night. I was in the gym at 3:30 that morning. On my way — I made a point to look at the clock so I know it was 5:31 that morning — I turned onto my street and that’s when it really hit me what was happening, not just for me, but for the whole community,” Vowels said. “This is important to me because it is about my child. But this is a case that could be very important for the whole community.

“That’s when it really hit me, when I really realized the magnitude of what had happened. And I just started grinning. It was a grin of pure gratitude.”

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition December 4, 2009.
 

Dallas Voice article December 4, 2009: Appeals court sends lesbian custody case to trial

Dallas Voice article May 8, 2008:  Lesbian moms in custody fight
 

My previous blog posts on the case: 

Green Light for Suit for Access to Child by Lesbian Nonparent

Dallas Voice Article – Gay/Lesbian Custody Issues

 

Green Light for Suit for Access to Child by Lesbian Nonparent

The Dallas Court of Appeals has given the green light to a nonparent woman to seek access to the child with whom she had a substantial relationship.  In In re M.K.S., the Dallas Court of Appeals held that the nonparent woman had established sufficient evidence of a pattern of conduct over a significant amount of time that the child would be involved with the nonparent woman, thus giving her the right under Texas Law to seek access to the child.

K.V. and T.S. had a same-sex relationship starting in December 1998.  After several years of discussion and several sessions with a therapist, the two women decided to have a child through artificial insemination, with T.S. as the biological mother and sperm from an anonymous donor. The child was born May 21, 2004.

Then, 15 months after the child’s birth, K.V. and T.S. separated, agreeing at the time to a visitation schedule very similar to what is considered a “standard” visitation schedule between divorced parents in Texas: The child lived with T.S., but stayed with K.V. every other Tuesday overnight, every other weekend and every other Sunday from after church to 6 p.m. The women also agreed that K.V. would be allowed to share holiday time, as well. That arrangement lasted for about 20 months, when T.S. unilaterally refused to allow K.V. to see the child anymore.

K.V. immediately filed to establish a legal relationship with the child and for court-ordered access.  She also volunteered to pay child support to T.S. on behalf of the child.  T.S. challenged K.V.'s standing to file the lawsuit. 

Standing is a legal concept that acts as a gatekeeper as to who can file lawsuits.  It's not so easy that anyone can sue for anything.  The laws set out certain people who can file a lawsuit under certain circumstances.  In this situation, a nonparent can only file a suit for access to a child in very limited circumstances.  As in M.K.S., one of those situation is when the nonparent has had "actual care, control, and possession" of the child for at least six months ending not more than 90 days preceding the date of the filing of the suit.

T.S. argued that the child had not lived in K.V.'s home in the last 6 months as required for standing and that the agreed schedule with the child was insufficient to meet the requirements of the statute.  Judge Tena Callahan agreed with T.S. and dismissed K.V.'s suit for lack of standing.

Yesterday, the Dallas Court of Appeals held:

In the instant case, the record shows that the possession agreement between K.V. and T.S. shared characteristics of a standard possession order.  From August 5, 2005 through April 25, 2007, during the school year, M.K.S. visited K.V. overnight once a week, alternative Sunday afternoons, and alternative weekends beginning on Friday afternoons. During the summer, the weekend visits sometimes started on Thursday afternoon. M.K.S. also visited K.V. on some holidays.

M.K.S. had her own room at K.V.'s house where she kept her toys, movies, a television, and an aquarium. She had a sandbox and a slide set outside. K.V. also modified her house by building a wrap around deck with gates on it so that the child would have a safe environment in which to play. There were occasions when K.V. would pick the child up from school when she was sick and then purchase and administer medication. K.V. was listed as a parent on the child's school records. K.V. also attended school activities and the teachers were aware that K.V. would pick the child up from school during her periods of possession. Witnesses testified that T.S. has referred to K.V. as the child's mother and treats K.V. as one of the child's parents. K.V. also established a college fund for M.K.S. After the relationship between K.V. and T.S. ended, the couple continued to attend church with the child as a family unit. T.S. discontinued K.V.'s visits with M.K.S. on April 25, 2007. The original petition was filed on May 23, 2007.

[T]he record does not suggest this pattern of possession and caregiving was intended to be a temporary arrangement. To the contrary, the possession agreement and the parties' actions evinced an intent that the child occupy K.V.'s home consistently over a substantial period of time. Therefore, we conclude the trial court erred in determining that K.V. did not establish the six month period of actual care, custody, and control requisite to establish her standing to file an original SAPCR petition. K.V.'s first issue is sustained.

Of course, T.S. has the right to file a motion for rehearing in the Dallas court of appeals and/or possibly petition the Texas Supreme Court for review.  But, if this decision stands, the case will return to Judge Tena Callahan's court for a trial on whether possession between K.V. and the child is in the child's best interest.  The challenge at that point will be to overcome the standards set out in the Troxel case, which stands for the proposition that fit parents have the constitutional right to parent their children without interference from nonparents or the government.  Only upon a finding of unfitness in the parenting can a nonparent be given court-ordered rights to a child over the objection of the parent.

Read the whole opinion:  In re M.K.S.

Some of you may recall that The Dallas Voice reported on this case when we filed it in the the Dallas Court of Appeals:  Lesbian Moms in Custody Fight

Also, for more information, see my blog post at The May Firm blog:  Gay/Lesbian Custody Issues

Dallas Judge Tena Callahan Speaks Publicly For The First Time Since Her Controversial Ruling

Judge Tena Callahan made national headlines this month when she ruled that a Dallas gay couple could seek a divorce in Texas to terminate the marriage granted by the State of Massachusets.  See my prior post:  Dallas Judge:  Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional

Judge Callahan spoke publicly this week for the first time since her ruling at a meeting of the Dallas Stonewall Democrats.  The Dallas Voice reported on the meeting and her speech last night online Callahan: It's always time to do the right thing by John Wright:

Judge Tena Callahan stood at the front of the room inside Ojeda’s Restaurant in Dallas on Tuesday, Oct. 20, and held up a small, red cloth bag.

Callahan said she has “millions” of bags like it, because they’re frequently given to judges and attorneys at legal seminars. She said she uses them for groceries and leaves them hanging over a chair in her dining room.

But Callahan said it was this particular bag — and the quotation printed on the back — that ultimately helped her muster the courage she needed to recently declare Texas’ marriage amendment unconstitutional.

“I was sitting at my dining room table and I was thinking, I’ve got to make this decision, I’ve got to rip this Band-Aid off and I’ve got to make this decision,” Callahan said, adding that she wasn’t struggling with the constitutional principle behind the ruling, but with the backlash she was sure to face.

“My dad always used to tell me that a billion people can believe in a bad idea, and it’s still a bad idea. And that man taught me to have the courage of my convictions and to do what’s right

— it’s always the right time to do the right thing. And as I’m sitting there and all this is going through my head, I’m looking at the back of this bag, and I went, ‘Oh my God, I just got my answer.’

“‘Let us have faith that right makes might,’” Callahan said, reading from the back of the bag, “and in that faith, let us to the end dare to do our duty as we understand it. — Abraham Lincoln.”

“I do my duty,” Callahan said. “That’s what you elected me to do.”
As Callahan concluded her brief remarks, fellow members of Stonewall Democrats of Dallas gave her a standing ovation, just as they had when she took the microphone.

Judge Callahan also commented on the application of the U.S. Constitution:

“And when I got to reading the Constitution of the United States of America, which Texas is still a part of, I was never more sure of just how much you and I are the very same and how important it is that that constitution protect you, because if it doesn’t protect you, then it doesn’t protect me, and I want it to protect me,” she said.

“It’s not there to protect the majority. In a democracy, majority rules. Who needs the silly constitution when you’re ruling? But when you overreach, when you step out of your bounds, when you apply the same laws differently to people who are just the same, that’s what it’s there for. …

“It is a wonderful, living, breathing document, and it protects us all,” Callahan said.

Callahan said she was only doing her job when she issued the ruling and she credited those in the room with being “smart enough” to help elect her and other Democrats in 2006. She encouraged them to do “the right thing” again in 2010 by supporting Democratic candidates, including several who attended Tuesday’s meeting.

 Hat Tip to Kris for pointing me to this article!

Dallas Judge: Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional: UPDATE

Dallas 302nd state District Judge Tena Callahan ruled Thursday that the state's bans on same-sex marriage violates the constitutional guarantee to equal protection under the law. She said her court "has jurisdiction to hear a suit for divorce filed by persons legally married in another jurisdiction."  Her ruling clears the way for two gay men to legally divorce in Texas. 

Judge Tena Callahan investiture

The men legally married in Cambridge, Massachusets, in 2006 and later moved to Dallas. In Janauary 2009, one of the spouses filed for divorce.  The marriage, one of the spouses said, was not entered into lightly, and after 11 years together, the breakup is painful.

A voter-approved state constitutional amendment and the Texas Family Code prohibit same-sex marriages or civil unions.  The approval of the Texas Marriage Amendment by voters in Nov. 2005 specified the definition of marriage in the Texas Constitution as the union of one man and one woman. It protects the longstanding social practice of recognizing only the union of a man and a woman as a marriage, and reinforced the Texas Defense of Marriage Act of 2003 prohibiting any political entity in the state from recognizing the union of two people of the same gender.

The Texas attorney general had intervened in the two men’s divorce case, arguing that since a gay marriage isn’t recognized in Texas, a Texas court can’t dissolve one through divorce.  Judge Callahan denied the AG's intervention, which, of course, the AG promises to appeal.  The AG said, "In the State of Texas, marriage is – and has always been – a union between one man and one woman. To prevent other states from imposing their values on this state, Texas voters overwhelmingly approved a Constitutional amendment specifically defining marriage as a union of one man and one woman," he said in a written statement. "Because the parties' Massachusetts-issued arrangement is not a marriage under Texas law, they are asking a Texas court to recognize – and dissolve – something that does not legally exist."

The Dallas lawyer representing the spouse filing for the divorce said he will argue that the men have that right under Article IV, Section 1 of the U.S. Constitution. The so-called Full Faith and Credit Clause provides, in part, that states recognize contracts from other states – that the marriage bond, he said, is universal.  He also argued that the ruling violates the guarantee for equal protection under the law.

Expect an immediate and hasty appeal to the Dallas court of appeals and likely the Texas Supreme Court on this one.  I'm sure the AG will file a mandamus action in the court of appeals to prohibit the divorce from proceeding.  The Dallas court of appeals will likely stay the divorce proceedings while the mandamus proceeds.  Then, regardless of the result of the case, the losing party will likely seek mandamus in the Texas Supreme Court, where the divorce proceeding will continue to be stayed.  It is not out of the question for the case to be filed with the U.S. Supreme Court for determination. 

Judge Tena Callahan is a Democrat elected in the 2006 Democrat sweep of the Dallas County courthouse.  Prior to election to the 302nd bench, Judge Callahan practiced law as a family law attorney in Dallas County for 15 years.  Judge Callahan received her undergraduate degree from the University of Texas and her law degree from St. Mary's School of Law.  In her 2006 campaign, she was endorsed as Qualified by the Committee for a Qualified Judiciary and the Dallas Morning News editorial board.  The Dallas Bar Association's Chris Robison with the DBA Publications Committee profiled Judge Callahan.

On the other hand, the Dallas Court of Appeals is considered to be one of the most conservative courts in the State.  Dominated by nine republican justices who are elected over a five county region consisting not only of Democrat-leaning Dallas County, but also uber-conservative Collin County and Grayson, Hunt, Rockwall and Kaufman counties.  Likewise, the Texas Supreme Court is made up of justices mostly appointed by either Governor Perry or Bush and it is largely considered to be one of the most conservative groups of justices on the Court ever.

Although many will consider this ruling to be a win for the GLBT sector, based on the level of conservatism of the justices in line to hear this case, it is extremely doubtful that this ruling will last very long.  No doubt, in the meantime, it will provide a national spotlight for Dallas County and Judge Callahan.

Hat tip to Roy Appleton of the Dallas Morning News for the article Dallas judge paves way for gay couple to get divorce October 1, 2009.  See also Roy Appleton's article Dallas same-sex divorce case a first for Texas on January 23, 2009.

Update:

This case has received expected national media attention.  This blog was quoted in the Gay Couples Law Blog (shout out to Gideon Alper!)

Also, NBC5 in Dallas has run a story on the issue, CBS11 in Dallas has interviewed Judge Callahan where she reiterates that the judicial ethics canons prevent her from discussing the case, the Wall Street Journal blog discussed the case, as did USA Today, and the Associated Press ran the story.

Not surprisingly, this issue is hot and being talked about.  I can tell you that Judge Callahan is a thoughtful, wise judge who (obviously!) has no problem doing what she thinks is right, without regard to politics or media coverage or anything else.  I've practiced in front of her since she became a judge.  I've won some and lost some in front of her.  But, I've never doubted her conviction for calling "balls and strikes" as she sees them!

 

Resources for LGBT parents

A client referred me to the website www.colage.org as a resource for LGBT parents.  COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents. I found the website very insightful and wanted to share it with our readers.  Check out this custody resource sheet called Protecting Families: Standards for Child Custody in Same-Sex Relationships.  Also, check out this suggested reading list for LGBT parents.  Issues involving same-sex couples, and especially same-sex couples with children, are increasing in the Dallas, Texas area.  These can be invaluable to anyone with questions about their rights. 

Also see this article in the Dallas Voice about one of my cases: Lesbian Moms in Custody fight.  This case is currently pending in the Dallas Court of Appeals.  Hopefully when it is decided, it will provide additional guidance as to the rights of same-sex partners who decide to have a child.

GLBT Custody or Possession of a Nonbiological Child

A client asks, I’ve maintained a relationship with my former partner’s child after our relationship ended, but I’m afraid that she’s going to cut me off. Is there anyway I can sue to keep the relationship I have with the child even though I’m not the biological parent?

I have four cases in my office right now pending in Dallas County with this exact issue. The Texas Family Code allows a lawsuit to be filed by a person who has had “actual care, control, and possession” of a child for at least 6 months ending not less than 90 days prior to the lawsuit being filed. There is much discussion going on in the court system right now about what constitutes “actual care, control and possession”. It is clear that “possession” does not mean uninterrupted periods, and does include periodic, alternating periods of possession. The current state of the law is unclear as to the meaning of “control” and there is much debate among judges as to what it means.

The law requires 6 months of possession, but it is unclear whether it means 6 months between the first period of “actual care, control and possession” and the last period, or whether the total of the periods of possession by the non-parent must aggregate (add up) to a total of 180 days. Regardless, the last possession period must not be less than 90-days prior to the day the lawsuit is filed. This means that a person who wants to solidify the relationship through a court order must not delay in filing suit.

I’ve had several clients come in with these problems, and each one delayed in seeking legal help. If you have a relationship with the child of a former partner, please do not delay in seeking advice from a lawyer about your situation. Consider confirming your relationship in a court order while the relationship with the other partner is good. If you have any questions about your status, please schedule a private, confidential consultation today.