Where We Stand as the Legislature Ends

Posted by Michelle May O'Neil on May 31, 2011

This Legislative Action Update was posted the Texas Family Law Foundation site yesterday by Gary Nickelson.

The 2011 Regular Session of the Texas Legislature expired at midnight May 30th. Whew! That was a lot of work by a lot of people.

It’s great that 10 of the 11 bills of the Family Law Section of the State Bar of Texas have passed both houses. Of those, 6 have already been signed into law by Governor Rick Perry. Here are those bills and their effective dates:

  • HB 841 - State agency name updated to DFPS - effective immediately
  • HB 905 - Admissibility of child hearsay - effective September 1, 2011
  • HB 906 - Indigent client appeals in SAPCRs - effective September 1, 2011
  • HB 1404 - Military deployments and kids - effective September 1, 2011
  • SB 785 - Mistaken paternity - effective May 12, 2011
  • SB 820 - Possession of very young kids - effective September 1, 2011

Regarding the other four bills, the Governor has until midnight June 19th to sign, veto or allow to them to go into effect without his signature. Those bills and their effective dates - if they become law - are:

  • HB 901 - Spousal maintenance update - effective September 1, 2011
  • HB 908 - Remedy for fraud on the community - effective September 1, 2011
  • SB 789 - Extended protective orders - effective September 1, 2011
  • SB 819 - Dating/family violence protective orders - effective September 1, 2011

We regret losing HB 910, which allows single people to use gestational agreements. We made headway again, but we’re just not there - yet.

The Texas Family Law Foundation will continue to report to Texas Family Lawyers on the legislative session, as long as there are bills alive down in Austin.
 

 

Divorce Over 50: 3 Mistakes to Avoid

Posted by Michelle May O'Neil on June 6, 2011

While the overall divorce rate has decreased slightly over the past two decades, for those over 50 it has doubled.  Paradoxically, experts chalk the increase up to baby boomers' affinity for marriage in the first place. More older people are on their second and third marriages by the time they hit 50 and those are marriages that are less likely to last.

Regardless of first, second or eighth, the stakes are higher for couples in their 50s, 60s and 70s. By the time most people are 50, they have a long work history, own some real estate, have a retirement account, life insurance and more – in which case, it's critical to get the best settlement possible.

Here are some mistakes particularly common to the over-50 set, all of which can lead to a lower-than-deserved settlement or make you pay your ex more than you should.
 

Mistake 1: Ignoring taxes on retirement funds

For those over 50, 401(k)s and other pre-tax retirement accounts may be the most significant asset other than the family home. That makes it essential that both sides understand their true value, which is actually considerably less than the balance. Because the money's taxed upon withdrawal, the real value of the account is only about 65% of what the statement says. This miscalculation can hurt, especially in community property states like California, Texas, Arizona and Nevada, where divorcing couples often split assets evenly: One spouse takes the house, the other takes the retirement fund and savings accounts, which may look equivalent on paper. Lawyers suggest negotiating for a larger portion of other shared savings to make the trade more equitable.


Mistake 2: Overvaluing alimony, undervaluing Social Security

Whether a couple is retired or still working, monthly income may actually be more important than the division of hard assets. Alimony, which may be awarded to the spouse who earns less or has been out of the workforce for some time, is one of the most common ways divorce settlements compensate for discrepancies in a couple's income. But banking on monthly payments from an ex-spouse gets riskier every year after 50, as the chance of them dying increases.  One way to protect yourself, is to get a life insurance policy on your ex. It's not enough to be the beneficiary on your former spouses' life insurance plan -- he or she can change that at any time. You want to own the policy outright.

On the other hand, Social Security is often undervalued in divorce negotiations. If the couple was married for at least 10 years, one spouse is entitled to the benefits of the other at age 62 – as long she/he remains unmarried. A person who makes less than his or her spouse will want to claim the higher-earning spouses' Social Security, as it will be worth more. If your spouse has a claim to your benefits, remember to figure that amount into negotiations for alimony or other payments.

Mistake 3: Forgetting about the kids

Older couples have older children – teenagers, college students, or even independent adults – which means custody battles may not be as pitched, if they exist at all. That doesn't mean there aren't issues. To prevent conflagrations down the road, make a plan to ensure that the assets being passed along to the children are set up appropriately so that your children, rather than, say, your ex's future spouse or your kids' new wife, get the money. For starters, create a "lifetime asset protection trust" for your kids to protect the assets in case they, too, get divorced. The trust will keep your kid's ex-spouse - or anyone else - from receiving any of the money you leave behind for them.

One expert suggests, if you have children under age 18, "it's really important to have the guardian of the children … be separate and distinct from the guardian of the money." That may seem counter-intuitive, and in reality, each spouse will control some money, but both money and children can be manipulated in messy divorces. Splitting those responsibilities and obligations can create a system of checks and balances.

Hat tip to Catey Hill for her March 23, 2011 article on Smartmoney.com
 

Does gridlock increase Dallas divorce rates?

Are you being driven to divorce, asks CBS 11? A study commissioned in Sweeden found that the risk of divorce goes up by 40% for spouses with commutes over 45 minutes.  "To be able to commute to work can be a positive thing because it means you don't have to uproot your family with every career move, but it can also be a strain on your relationship," says study author Erika Sandow. Commuting was found to be harder for women than men, and the risk of divorce is usually the highest during the first few years of commuting.

Dallas divorce attorneys say there are, naturally, other factors to consider when looking into the break down of marriage relationships.  The economy and finances have been straining marriages for years.  Long commutes may add to the stress a spouse feels during the day and takes time away from the family spent driving.

So, what can be done to prevent the commute from killing your marriage? Communication is essential to the health of any relationship.  Making special time for each other can also help bridge the gap.

Carol Cavazos and I discussed this study in the interview I did with her for this story on CBS 11:

 

Is Facebook Fueling Divorces?

Facebook is providing extra evidence that litigants can use in their Texas divorce lawsuits.  Dallas Texas divorce lawyers are using facebook and other forms of social media as evidence in divorce suits every day. See the interview by Doug Currin with KCENTV in Waco of me about this issue:

Part 1 of the interview:

 

Part 2 of the interview:

 

See the videos on the KCENTV website also.

Thanks to Doug Currin for the opportunity!

 

Man Charged in Electronic Spying Case

Police say Karl Dalley, 41, was looking at e-mails and photos on Kristin Dalley’s computer, as well as telephone records on her cell phone. The affidavit said Kristin Dalley contacted police after Karl Dalley had mentioned several things that he would have not known if he had not gone through her personal e-mails.

She confronted Karl Dalley and he admitted to installing spyware on her personal laptop, saying it was to keep an eye on their children, the affidavit said. It also said that state and federal law makes the monitoring of non-consenting adults illegal in most cases.

A search of Karl Dalley’s home computer showed two different purchases of the spyware and personal e-mails belonging to Kristin Dalley, according to the affidavit.

Karl Dalley faces up to 20 years in prison and a $10,000 fine if convicted. He was charged and his bail was set at $15,000. Records show he was not in the Travis County Jail.

Information Concerning Kids and Cars from "The Car Seat Lady"

Posted by Michelle May O'Neil on May 16, 2011

          I came across an informative video clip today by Dr. Alisa Baer, also known as The Car Seat Lady. Dr. Alisa Baer explains the 5 key steps outlined in the new American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) Car Seat Recommendations. These new guidelines were published on March 21, 2011.  It is important that you have the most up to date information to keep your child as safe as possible in the car.

The basic break down of these new guidelines is a 5 step tier system. Step one is “Rear-facing.” This tier is the safest for infants and toddlers in a car seat because it best protects from brain and spinal injury in the event of a crash.  This step is recommended until a child reaches the age of at least 2 years old. Note that children 12 years or younger should always ride in the back seat of a car. Step two is “Forward-facing” in a car seat. Step three is a “Booster Seat.” Step four is forward facing in the back seat with a “Shoulder/Lap Belt.” Step five is the “Front Seat” with a shoulder/lap belt. This fifth step is the least safe for your child and should not be rushed into.

In this video, Dr. Baer explains all of the new recommended steps and their safety aspects, including proper car seat and seat belt placement and car seat harnessing, along with helpful graphics.

To watch the video click this link: http://vimeo.com/21282791. You can also get more information from The Car Seat Lady at www.thecarseatlady.com.

How Texas divorce fraud is like powdered milk

Posted by Michelle May O'Neil on May 11, 2011

 

Today, the Texas Legislature passed House Bill 908, which provides a remedy for wronged spouses when fraud has been committed against the community estate in a divorce.  The law, if signed by the Governor, would allow a Texas divorce attorney to request the judge to account for the fraudulently missing property as if it still existed in the marital estate in conducting a just and right division of property.  The word used in the statute is to “reconstitute” the marital estate with the missing property.  When I think of the word “reconstituted” I think of powdered milk.  Did you ever have to drink reconstituted powdered milk? 

 

So, if the missing funds result in the estate being deficient in sufficient assets to award a just division to the wronged spouse, then the judge can award a money judgment to the wronged spouse with future payments as compensation.

 

One example where this might come to play… think of a situation where Husband has a girlfriend during the marriage and buys the girlfriend a $50,000 car in her name, as a gift, using cash from the marital estate.  Wife finds out and filed for divorce.  Wife wants to account for the car in the division of property.  So, the judge “reconstitutes” the marital estate with the missing $50,000, then awards the Wife a judgment as part of the property division with a monthly payment plan.

 

Another example, Husband and Wife are married, then Husband gets a large bonus from his employer.  Instead of putting the bonus in the joint account, Husband deposits the bonus into his mother’s bank account. Wife sues for divorce and alleges a fraudulent transfer to the mother.  The judge can agree and include the missing funds in the division of the marital estate.

WHO GETS TO INTERVIEW YOUR CHILD?

Posted by Michelle May O’Neil on May 2, 2011

The United States Supreme Court long ago decided that matters concerning the management of the family were best handled by the states and their courts rather than the federal judiciary. For that reason, it is fairly rare for domestic relations cases to be decided by the Supreme Court of the United States. When it comes to family matters, only when questions affecting the U.S. Constitution arise does it warrant the highest court in our country getting involved.

Last week, this rare occurrence did happen in two separate matters, both in the state of Washington. The Supreme Court heard argument in two cases: Camreta v. Greene and Alford v. Greene, 588 F.3d 1011 (9th Cir 2009).  Both were heard in that state’s federal court and both cases were then appealed to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 9th Circuit which covers the western United States. The U.S. Supreme Court decided that these cases warranted attention because there were important constitutional issues involved, 131 S. Ct. Reptr 456,457 (2010).

 

It is a commonly known fact that we all have freedom from unreasonable search and seizure by government personnel. This usually applies to police investigating what they believe to be a crime, but is applicable to any government personnel. In the late 1890s the United States also adopted the view that people have the right to privacy. In addition, the U.S. Supreme Court has consistently held that people have the primary right to raise children in accordance with their wishes and that government interference in family matters will be subject to the highest scrutiny.

 

The two cases argued last week involve government investigations into allegations that children were being abused by a parent. There are few subjects more problematic than family child abuse. This is due to several factors, one of which is the issue that children are usually unreliable witnesses. But as these two cases properly observe; they are usually the only witnesses where parental abuse is alleged. Another issue is that the parent who is not the subject of the allegations faces the worst dilemma a human being can endure. We may not love, or even like our spouse anymore, but it is rare that an attitude would develop toward that person that would allow for the thought to be entertained of a parent actually being capable of physically abusing their own flesh and blood.  

 

In the Greene case it seems investigators were contacted by the school of a seven year old child. The school had information suggesting the Father might have sexually abused the child. Before any warrant was obtained and without notifying either of the child’sparents that an investigation was underway, a law enforcement official and an employee from the county agency designated to investigate such allegations went to the child’s school to interview the child.

 

Although the child gave conflicting statements as to what occurred, as is often the case, the state prosecuted anyway. Ultimately, the Father was acquitted. At that time the mother sued the state for invading her child’s privacy and conducting an unreasonable search of her daughter without permission of either parent.

 

The question for the Court to decide is whether government officials have the right to interview your child without your permission, a warrant, court order or other exigent circumstances where it would be impossible to get those forms of permission. In this case, the individuals who did the interviews were state welfare officials and police officers. In theory, however, teachers, principals and guidance counselors are government officials, as well, so the decision could have a far wider impact than just the law enforcement community. In the second case, it was the child welfare authorities who questioned the child, not the police.

 

There are difficult questions associated with these types of scenarios.  If a child witnessed an accident or was the victim of a crime not committed by a parent is parental permission or a warrant required to interview the child? The child is not the same person as the parent. Is there a higher level of due process required because the parent is an alleged perpetrator?  

 

We live in an age when any parent could find themselves in a situation where a child gets angry as a result of an altercation with their parent and complains to school officials. The school officials are required to report to law enforcement anything that they reasonably believe constitutes abuse. It puts school personnel in a precarious position as young children, in particular, are highly impressionable and not the best reporters of facts.

 

These allegations are very, very serious and have both custodial and criminal implications that are quite far-reaching. If you find yourself in this position, seek independent advice from an attorney before responding to any allegation that you have done harm to a child; even if you regard the allegation as frivolous.

 

 

Hat tip to Mark Ashton for his March 9, 2011 post

What You Need to Know about Alimony/Maintenance in Texas

Posted by Michelle May O'Neil on May 2, 2011

Until recent years, Texas did not allow for the payment of alimony and, even now, it is available in extremely limited circumstances and limited duration.

A spouse can be awarded alimony/maintenance under the Texas Family Code only if one of two specific conditions exists.

The first is if the other spouse was convicted of a crime involving family violence within the two years prior to the filing of the divorce suit.  This includes class C misdemeanor convictions if the allegation involved family violence.  It also includes occasions where the defendant received deferred adjudication in exchange for a plea of guilty.

The other starts with a 10-year marriage, where the spouse seeking maintenance lacks sufficient property (including property awarded in the divorce) to provide for his or her minimum reasonable needs.  If that factor exists, then, the inquiry turns to whether the spouse can or cannot work outside the home because he/she has an incapacitating personal physical or mental disability; or, he/she is the primary caregiver of a child requiring substantial care due to a physical or mental disability; or the spouse clearly lacks adequate skills to find a job to support minimum reasonable needs.

Most alimony claims rely on the second of the conditions.  But for the request to be successful, the spouse must be able to show a reasonable attempt to find an appropriate job or get job training.

Judges are further limited in the right to award maintenance by state law that says support can continue for no longer than necessary to provide for the spouse's needs, but no more than three years after the divorce is finalized.  The exception to this rule is when the maintenance is awarded based on a disability of either the spouse receiving maintenance or caring for a disabled child, in which case the award may be indefinite in duration.  Also, monthly payment amount is limited to either $2,500 or 20 percent of the paying spouse's average gross income - whichever amount is lower. 

If this post was helpful, you may be interested in purchasing our book, Basics of Texas Divorce Law which includes several other topics you may want to know more about such as, the divorce proceeding, division of property and issues related to children.