Facebook and Divorce -- Media Interview

This week I received a phone call from Meredith Manning with CBS11 in Dallas, asking to interview me for a story related to the effect of Facebook and other social media on divorce.  She found me through my prior blog posts on the subject.  Of course, I was honored to be interviewed.  We discussed the impact that social media has had on litigation in general and family law/divorce cases specifically.  She continues to seek a spouse whose divorce was impacted by facebook -- if you know anyone like that who would agree to be interviewed (with identity concealed), let me know.  The story should air in a couple of weeks.

Dallas Divorce Lawyer Michelle May O'Neil Appears On Local Television Program Today

Today, channel KDTX featured Michelle May O'Neil on the television show Joy In Our Town to discuss challenges in paying and receiving child support in a down economy.  O'Neil gave pointers to obligors (paying support) who have lost their jobs and find it difficult to make the payments, as well as to obligees (receiving support) who need to collect and enforce the payment.

UPDATE:  Unfortunately, the show's airing has been delayed until November 13, 2009 at noon.  But you can see it below!

To watch the video, click here: www.youtube.com/watch

 

Dallas Judge Tena Callahan Speaks Publicly For The First Time Since Her Controversial Ruling

Judge Tena Callahan made national headlines this month when she ruled that a Dallas gay couple could seek a divorce in Texas to terminate the marriage granted by the State of Massachusets.  See my prior post:  Dallas Judge:  Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional

Judge Callahan spoke publicly this week for the first time since her ruling at a meeting of the Dallas Stonewall Democrats.  The Dallas Voice reported on the meeting and her speech last night online Callahan: It's always time to do the right thing by John Wright:

Judge Tena Callahan stood at the front of the room inside Ojeda’s Restaurant in Dallas on Tuesday, Oct. 20, and held up a small, red cloth bag.

Callahan said she has “millions” of bags like it, because they’re frequently given to judges and attorneys at legal seminars. She said she uses them for groceries and leaves them hanging over a chair in her dining room.

But Callahan said it was this particular bag — and the quotation printed on the back — that ultimately helped her muster the courage she needed to recently declare Texas’ marriage amendment unconstitutional.

“I was sitting at my dining room table and I was thinking, I’ve got to make this decision, I’ve got to rip this Band-Aid off and I’ve got to make this decision,” Callahan said, adding that she wasn’t struggling with the constitutional principle behind the ruling, but with the backlash she was sure to face.

“My dad always used to tell me that a billion people can believe in a bad idea, and it’s still a bad idea. And that man taught me to have the courage of my convictions and to do what’s right

— it’s always the right time to do the right thing. And as I’m sitting there and all this is going through my head, I’m looking at the back of this bag, and I went, ‘Oh my God, I just got my answer.’

“‘Let us have faith that right makes might,’” Callahan said, reading from the back of the bag, “and in that faith, let us to the end dare to do our duty as we understand it. — Abraham Lincoln.”

“I do my duty,” Callahan said. “That’s what you elected me to do.”
As Callahan concluded her brief remarks, fellow members of Stonewall Democrats of Dallas gave her a standing ovation, just as they had when she took the microphone.

Judge Callahan also commented on the application of the U.S. Constitution:

“And when I got to reading the Constitution of the United States of America, which Texas is still a part of, I was never more sure of just how much you and I are the very same and how important it is that that constitution protect you, because if it doesn’t protect you, then it doesn’t protect me, and I want it to protect me,” she said.

“It’s not there to protect the majority. In a democracy, majority rules. Who needs the silly constitution when you’re ruling? But when you overreach, when you step out of your bounds, when you apply the same laws differently to people who are just the same, that’s what it’s there for. …

“It is a wonderful, living, breathing document, and it protects us all,” Callahan said.

Callahan said she was only doing her job when she issued the ruling and she credited those in the room with being “smart enough” to help elect her and other Democrats in 2006. She encouraged them to do “the right thing” again in 2010 by supporting Democratic candidates, including several who attended Tuesday’s meeting.

 Hat Tip to Kris for pointing me to this article!

What not to tell your kids during a divorce and how not tell them.

Although it may seem like common sense, there are a number of things parent shouldn't tell their kids during and after their divorce.  A common them among some of these things is the assignment of blame for the divorce (be it blaming the other parent or the child).  Another common theme involves the delivery of the message.  Communication experts have routinely pointed out that approximately 80% of communication is in the delivery.  Also, these communication tips not only apply to divorce cases in Dallas but across the country too.

Examples of things not to say that fall in the "not my fault" category are:

  1. I don't want a divorce, but your [mom/dad] does;
  2. You can thank your [mom/dad] for us splitting up; and
  3. Because of what you did, we're getting a divorce.

Examples relating to the delivery of the message include: 

  1. Yelling at the other parent in front of the children; and
  2. Expressing apathy/frustration about the other parent's rules.

Sometimes parents "sugar coat" the issues which results in their children having unrealistic expectations.  Although the level of explanation to provide a child varies by age, intellect and maturity, parents do themselves a disservice by trying to shield their children from truths surrounding their divorce. 

Bottom line: Parents should remember to avoid blame assignment and pay attention to how they communicate with their children when discussing their divorce.  Hat tips to Dick Price's blog and Wolfgang at Singleparentgossip.com for the motivation behind this post. 

So you want sole custody?? Conclusion

In my previous two posts I defined the terms commonly used in custody determinations and the factors courts consider in determining custody.  Now that we have these housekeeping issues taken care of, I'll discuss the presumptions that apply in conservatorship determinations and the hurdles parents have to overcome in getting "sole custody."

 It is presumed that appointment of both parents as joint managing conservators is in the best interest of the child.  The rationale behind this is that the appointment of both parents as the child's conservator provides the child with the best care and opportunities, as well as the best environment for the child's mental, moral and emotional development.  Texas courts should also, but are not required to do so, consider Texas public policy which aims to: (1) ensure that children have frequent and continuing contact with both parents; (2) provide children with a safe and stable environment; and (3) encourage parents to share in the rights and obligations in raising their children after their divorce. 

If a parent seeks appointment as the sole managing conservator against the other parent then that parent must overcome the presumption that appointment of joint managing conservators is not in the best interests of the child.  Note that if there are allegations of domestic violence, the parent seeking appointment as sole managing conservator is not required to rebut the joint managing conservator presumption. 

In order to rebut the joint managing conservator presumption, the parent seeking appointment as sole managing conservator is required to present evidence that appointing joint managing conservators is not in the child's best interest.  This is done by looking to the Holley factors I discussed in part two of this series of posts.  If the parent is successful in overcoming the joint managing conservator presumption, the other parent must be appointed as a possessory conservator unless the court finds that doing so would not be in the child's best interest and allowing that parent to have possession or access to the child would endanger the child's physical or emotional welfare. 

If, however, there are allegations of domestic violence, then it is somewhat easier to rebut the joint managing conservator presumption.  The Texas Family Code prohibits the appointment of parents as joint managing conservators if credible evidence of domestic violence is presented.  Credible evidence of domestic violence is evidence that a parent has a history of past or present child neglect or a history of abuse that was directed to the other parent, a spouse or the child. 

Because the burden of overcoming the joint managing conservator presumption is so great, the majority of the time the court appoints parents as joint managing conservators.  When appointing joint managing conservators, the court must appoint one parent as the "primary" joint managing conservator.  The primary joint managing conservator is the parent that is granted the exclusive right to designate the child's primary residence.  In determining the who to appoint as the primary joint managing conservator, the best interests of the child control. 

In sum, it is difficult to overcome the joint managing conservator presumption and to obtain "sole custody" of a child.  Of course, the issues presented in this series of posts pertain only to the determination of conservatorship.  Once conservatorship is determined, the court must then allocate periods of possession and access to the children.  Thus, even if a parent is designated as the sole managing conservator, it is likely that the other parent will be granted as a possessory conservator and have some periods of possession and access to the child. 

 

All About Texas Law and Kids Book Release

Dallas Divorce Lawyer Michelle May O'Neil announces the release of the book All About Texas Law and Kids, a book co-authored by Bobbi Sheahan, Michelle May O'Neil, Claudia Cano, and Sharon Ramage.  Children are relevant to every aspect of the law, and they cannot represent themselves.  From the seizure of the FLDS children to the debates over what is taught in schools, the intersection of kids and the law is front-page news every day in Texas.  This book is a useful resource to practitioners, parents, and non-parents alike.

Can a grandparent sue for visitation?

Can a former love interest sue for visitation?

Who is legally responsible for vandalism committed by a 16-year-old or a 6-year-old child?

Can a 12-year-old child decide where she is going to live?

What is an open adoption and is it the right fit for you or your client?

Where do you start with a special needs student?

Are you advising a client on the employment of minors?

What happens when a child gets hurt?

Written by leading family law experts, Bobbi Reilly Sheahan, Michelle May O'Neil, Claudia Cano, and Sharon Ramage, All About Texas Law and Kids answers all of these questions and many more.  This pocket-size resource includes sections on:

The Rights and Obligations of Parents

Child Protective Services

Custody and Child Support

Adoption

Education:  Homeschooling, Public and Private Schools

Special Education

Children and Criminal Law

Children and Employment

Kids, Sex and Texas Law

Kids and Vehicles

When is a kid not a kid?

Kids and Contracts

All About Texas Law and Kids is published by the Texas Lawyer, an IncisiveMedia publication.  The book retails for $69.95 plus tax ($75.72) and can be ordered at www.lawcatalog.com

Dallas Divorce Lawyers Host Open House

Michelle O'Neil at O'Neil Anderson Open HouseDallas Divorce Lawyers Michelle May O'Neil and Nathan Anderson hosted an open house celebrating the opening of their new location at Lincoln Centre Two.  The event was well-attended, despite the weather, by clients, lawyers, and judges alike.  O'Neil Anderson was formed in 2009 to provide compassionate yet relentless service to client in need of family law services.  Michelle May O'Neil is board certified in family law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization and has practiced family law for her entire 17+ year career.  Nathan Anderson joins the firm after practicing with the ligitation division of a civil firm in Houston.

Ms. O'Neil and Mr. Anderson appreciate all of those who braved the weather to attend the open house and welcome their clients, friends, and collegues who were unable to attend to come by and see the new space.

But He Used To Make More -- Is He Intentionally Underemployed for Child Support Calculation?

To Show Intentional Underemployment for Purposes of Calculating Child Support, Must Show Intent, Not Just Reduction of Income

Facts: Trial court found Father’s monthly net resources were $4,779.90 in 2006, and $3,393.40 in 2007. Trial court further found Father obligated to support 2 children, one before the court and another from a previous marriage. Divorce decree shows family code guidelines direct child support payments of $593.77/month based upon Father’s 2007 monthly net resources. Trial court, however, found that “testimony shows that the obligor [Father] was voluntarily underemployed during 2007” and set child support payments at $825/month.

Held: Affirmed final decree of divorce as modified.

Opinion: To begin the voluntary underemployment analysis, trial court contemplates obligor’s proof of cur-rent wages. Once obligor’s wages are established, burden shifts to obligee to demonstrate obligor’s intent to decrease income for purpose of reducing child support payments. Evidence of intent, such as circumstances of obligor’s education, economic adversities, business reversals, business background, and earning potential, gives rise to an inference of voluntary  underemployment. These factors, however, are not exhaustive.

Father’s employer stated that by agreement Father set his own schedule and did not work every day. Employ-er further testified that he assigned Father’s projects, and Father received a 40% commission from the profits.

Employer told trial court that Father earned $62,730 in 2005, $76,900 in 2006, & $54,300 in 2007. When asked about the earnings decline between 2006 and 2007, Employer indicated that he reduced Father’s work-load based on Father’s emotional state and that his business decreased overall because of adverse economic conditions. Employer testified Father did not ask for a reduction of his workload, and that he subsequently asked Employer to increase it. Father told trial court that in 2007 his income decreased more than the income of the business overall because Employer would assign more work in the downturn to those employees with lower commission percentages. There is no evidence to the contrary.

Mother had the burden at trial to present evidence of underemployment as a specific basis for departing from child support guidelines applied to Father’s 2007 income. Such evidence must be of a “substantive and proba-tive character” giving rise to an inference of intentional underemployment. She did not meet this burden. Therefore, final decree of divorce modified in part by substituting $593.77 for $825 as the amount of Father’s monthly CS obligation.

Comment: Given current economic conditions, in our practices we are likely to be on one side or the other of a situation in which the child support obligor loses their job or suffers a decrease in income. Naturally, the obligor is going to want to reduce their child support payments accordingly. It is also likely the obligee is going to be unhappy that there is less money coming in. Although the obligee might be unhappy and might be used to higher child support payments, in this economy, decreased income for many is a reality, and, as this opinion illustrates, does not form the basis for a claim of intentional underemployment. The moral of this case – you have to show some intent to prevail on a claim of intentional underemployment. M.M.O.

In re J.G.L., ___ S.W.3d ___, 2009 WL 2648401 (Tex. App. – Dallas 2009, no pet. h.) (08/28/09).

Dallas Divorce Lawyers featured in local media

O'Neil Anderson has been featured in Dallas Morning News' Neighbor's Go publication.  See the story here:  The May Firm Expands to Become O'Neil Anderson.

Divorce Judge: I think he needs help -- can I order it? Answer: NO!

 Divorce Court Cannot Order a Parent to Take Meds or Go To Treatment

Facts: Father and mother married 09/06/05. They had child on 5/22/06. On 4/17/07, father filed for divorce.  Both mother and father sought joint custody, but only mother sought designation as the conservator with right to designate child’s primary residence. Evidence at trial showed that father had suffered from bipolar disorder and drug abuse since he was a teenager. Father had a history of starting and terminating treatment. At the time of marriage, father was not taking medication or attending counseling. In 12/05/07, father relapsed and used methamphetamine twice. Father restarted therapy and medication but did not take his medication consistently. On 05/29/08, trial court divorce decree appointing father and mother JMC and giving mother the right to establish the child’s primary residence. The decree required father to continue taking his medication, going to counseling, and attending AA meetings. Father appealed.

The court of appeals found the divorce judge committed error and reversed the decision.

Opinion: Although trial court had discretion to require father to continue treatment as a condition of possession and access, it could not simply issue stand-alone orders to father. Because complying with the orders was not a requirement for father to maintain his parental rights, the orders were not related in any matter to the child. They were, therefore, an abuse of trial court’s discretion.

Comment: Here, the court order failed to provide any link between the father’s access to the child and the requirement of continued medication and counseling. The father argued that the requirements pro-vided in the decree violated his rights as an “incapacitated person” under the Texas Probate Code. The Amarillo Court agreed. Another argument that father could have made here is that the court’s order requir-ing him to take medications violates his constitutional rights. Under Washington v. Harper, 494 U.S. 210 (1990), a person has a significant constitutionally protected liberty interest in avoiding the unwanted admin-istration of antipsychotic drugs. In order for the government to require someone to take medication against their will, there has to be a finding, by clear and convincing evidence, that the person is a danger to himself or others and the treatment is in the patient’s best interest. See Tex. Health & Safety Code §574.106(a-1). So, although a judge can enter orders affecting the child based on the parent’s decision to take or not take medication, the court cannot order the parent to take the medication outside of an involuntary suit under the Texas Health and Safety Code. M.M.O.

 

In re Marriage of Swim, __ S.W.3d __, 2009 WL 1940877 (Tex. App. -- Amarillo 2009, no pet. h.)

 

 

 

 

So you want sole custody?? Part Two

In my previous post I talked about the various terms used in Texas courts regarding child custody.  I also stated that the best interest of the child is the first priority for any Texas court presented in a conservatorship and/or possession determination.  In this post, I'll continue our discussion by looking at the factors courts consider in determining what is in the best interest of a child (i.e., the Holly Factors). 

The first main category a court will assess is the parent's ability to care for the child.  Generally speaking the following seven factors are frequently considered:

  • Which parent will best provide for the child's physical, psychological, and emotional needs now and in the future?
  • Does either parent pose any physical or emotional danger to the child now or in the future?
  • Which parent will present the most stability for the child?
  • What are the parents' plans for the child?
  • What level of cooperation exists between the parents? 
  • What are the parenting skills of each parent?
  • Which parent was the child's primary caregiver before the divorce was filed?

The second main category to be assessed is maintaining family relationships.  Generally, the following six factors are considered:

  • The child's desires (if the child is 12 years of age or greater)
  • The geographic proximity of the parents and other family members
  • If divided or split conservatorship is requested, the court can consider what effect separation would have on the siblings
  • The extent to which each parent can encourage and accept a positive relationship between the child and the other parent
  • Whether any parent ever knowingly made a false report of child abuse
  • Whether there is a need for measures to protect the child from being abducted to a foreign country. 

The last main category deals with parental fitness.  In this category there are mandatory factors and optional factors the court considers.  The three mandatory factors are: 

  • Whether there is any credible evidence of a history or pattern of past or present child neglect or physical or sexual abuse by one parent against the other, a spouse, or a child
  • Whether there is any evidence of the intentional use of of abusive physical force by a parent against the other or any person under 18 years of age that is committed while the suit is pending or in the two years before the suit was filed
  • Whether there has been a commission of family violence

The following are optional factors for the court to consider as they relate to the parties to the suit:

  • Each parent's present fitness to care for the child (including recent past conduct that is a reasonable predictor of current fitness)
  • Whether either parent has a drug or alcohol problem
  • Whether either parent's sexual conduct renders that parent unfit to act as a parent (for example, if a parent has pornography that is accessible to the child)

It is also a comfort to a lot of our clients that the court can NOT consider the following factors: 

  • Martial status (although a parent's marital status cannot be used by itself to determine who should be appointed as the child's conservator, court's can consider a parent's marital stability)
  • Gender
  • Race
  • Religion (except if the religion requires the parent to engage in illegal, immoral or harmful activities).

Although this may seem like a short list of factors, there are several nuances to each factor listed.  Now that we have the basic terms down and an understanding of what the Holly Factors are, in my next post I'll discuss the presumptions that apply is conservatorship determination and how they impact a party's desire for "sole custody." 

 

 

Dallas Judge: Ban on Gay Marriage and Divorce Unconstitutional: UPDATE

Dallas 302nd state District Judge Tena Callahan ruled Thursday that the state's bans on same-sex marriage violates the constitutional guarantee to equal protection under the law. She said her court "has jurisdiction to hear a suit for divorce filed by persons legally married in another jurisdiction."  Her ruling clears the way for two gay men to legally divorce in Texas. 

Judge Tena Callahan investiture

The men legally married in Cambridge, Massachusets, in 2006 and later moved to Dallas. In Janauary 2009, one of the spouses filed for divorce.  The marriage, one of the spouses said, was not entered into lightly, and after 11 years together, the breakup is painful.

A voter-approved state constitutional amendment and the Texas Family Code prohibit same-sex marriages or civil unions.  The approval of the Texas Marriage Amendment by voters in Nov. 2005 specified the definition of marriage in the Texas Constitution as the union of one man and one woman. It protects the longstanding social practice of recognizing only the union of a man and a woman as a marriage, and reinforced the Texas Defense of Marriage Act of 2003 prohibiting any political entity in the state from recognizing the union of two people of the same gender.

The Texas attorney general had intervened in the two men’s divorce case, arguing that since a gay marriage isn’t recognized in Texas, a Texas court can’t dissolve one through divorce.  Judge Callahan denied the AG's intervention, which, of course, the AG promises to appeal.  The AG said, "In the State of Texas, marriage is – and has always been – a union between one man and one woman. To prevent other states from imposing their values on this state, Texas voters overwhelmingly approved a Constitutional amendment specifically defining marriage as a union of one man and one woman," he said in a written statement. "Because the parties' Massachusetts-issued arrangement is not a marriage under Texas law, they are asking a Texas court to recognize – and dissolve – something that does not legally exist."

The Dallas lawyer representing the spouse filing for the divorce said he will argue that the men have that right under Article IV, Section 1 of the U.S. Constitution. The so-called Full Faith and Credit Clause provides, in part, that states recognize contracts from other states – that the marriage bond, he said, is universal.  He also argued that the ruling violates the guarantee for equal protection under the law.

Expect an immediate and hasty appeal to the Dallas court of appeals and likely the Texas Supreme Court on this one.  I'm sure the AG will file a mandamus action in the court of appeals to prohibit the divorce from proceeding.  The Dallas court of appeals will likely stay the divorce proceedings while the mandamus proceeds.  Then, regardless of the result of the case, the losing party will likely seek mandamus in the Texas Supreme Court, where the divorce proceeding will continue to be stayed.  It is not out of the question for the case to be filed with the U.S. Supreme Court for determination. 

Judge Tena Callahan is a Democrat elected in the 2006 Democrat sweep of the Dallas County courthouse.  Prior to election to the 302nd bench, Judge Callahan practiced law as a family law attorney in Dallas County for 15 years.  Judge Callahan received her undergraduate degree from the University of Texas and her law degree from St. Mary's School of Law.  In her 2006 campaign, she was endorsed as Qualified by the Committee for a Qualified Judiciary and the Dallas Morning News editorial board.  The Dallas Bar Association's Chris Robison with the DBA Publications Committee profiled Judge Callahan.

On the other hand, the Dallas Court of Appeals is considered to be one of the most conservative courts in the State.  Dominated by nine republican justices who are elected over a five county region consisting not only of Democrat-leaning Dallas County, but also uber-conservative Collin County and Grayson, Hunt, Rockwall and Kaufman counties.  Likewise, the Texas Supreme Court is made up of justices mostly appointed by either Governor Perry or Bush and it is largely considered to be one of the most conservative groups of justices on the Court ever.

Although many will consider this ruling to be a win for the GLBT sector, based on the level of conservatism of the justices in line to hear this case, it is extremely doubtful that this ruling will last very long.  No doubt, in the meantime, it will provide a national spotlight for Dallas County and Judge Callahan.

Hat tip to Roy Appleton of the Dallas Morning News for the article Dallas judge paves way for gay couple to get divorce October 1, 2009.  See also Roy Appleton's article Dallas same-sex divorce case a first for Texas on January 23, 2009.

Update:

This case has received expected national media attention.  This blog was quoted in the Gay Couples Law Blog (shout out to Gideon Alper!)

Also, NBC5 in Dallas has run a story on the issue, CBS11 in Dallas has interviewed Judge Callahan where she reiterates that the judicial ethics canons prevent her from discussing the case, the Wall Street Journal blog discussed the case, as did USA Today, and the Associated Press ran the story.

Not surprisingly, this issue is hot and being talked about.  I can tell you that Judge Callahan is a thoughtful, wise judge who (obviously!) has no problem doing what she thinks is right, without regard to politics or media coverage or anything else.  I've practiced in front of her since she became a judge.  I've won some and lost some in front of her.  But, I've never doubted her conviction for calling "balls and strikes" as she sees them!