Stars and Stripes reports that family law attorneys are seeing an increase in cases in which troops finishing combat rotations return home to angry custody battles and unsympathetic judges, who see long tours overseas as an obstacle to providing a stable home for children. Members of Congress have been fighting for years for better protection of military parents who are deployed and again this summer passed legislation to prohibit courts from making custody changes while a servicemember is overseas.
Hat tip to Eric Beal of the Beal Law Firm for pointing to this article.
- A parent who is deployed a significant distance from the child such that his or her conservatorship will be affected, the parent may seek a temporary modification of the court's orders during the period of deployment.
- Temporary orders granted under this section terminate at the end of the deployment.
- If the conservator with the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child is ordered to military deployment, the court may render a temporary order to appoint a designated person to exercise the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child during the military deployment, military mobilization, or temporary military duty in the following order of preference:
(1) the conservator who does not have the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child;
(2) if appointing the conservator described by Subdivision (1) is not in the child's best interest, a designated person chosen by the conservator with the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child; or
(3) if appointing the conservator described by Subdivision (1) or the person chosen under Subdivision (2) is not in the child's best interest, another person chosen by the court.
- For a parent without the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child is ordered to military deployment, the court may render a temporary order to appoint a designated person to exercise the right of possession of and access to the child in place of the deployed parent. The periods of possession will be the same as the parent had under the court's orders.
- Such orders must be in the best interest of the child, obviously.
- Such motion for temporary modification may be eligible for an expedited hearing if it is required due to the military deployment.
- Not later than the 90th day after the date a military parent without the exclusive right to designate the primary residence of the child concludes the parent's military deployment, the parent may petition the court to:
(1) compute the periods of possession of or access to the child to which the parent would have otherwise been entitled during the conservator's deployment; and
(2) award the parent additional periods of possession of or access to the child to compensate for the periods described by Subdivision (1).
By Leo Shane III, Stars and Stripes
Mideast edition, Sunday, September 6, 2009
Courtesy of Staff Sgt. Jessica Tolbe
In this 2006 photo, Staff Sgt. Jessica Tolbe (shown with her former husband’s name on her uniform) poses with her sons Jordan (left) and Jackson. Tolbe, who is fighting for custody of the boys with her ex-husband, believes her overseas deployment to Iraq played a factor in her losing custody of the children. WASHINGTON — When Staff Sgt. Jessica Tolbe returned from Iraq in February, she looked forward to catching up on lost time with her sons.
But when she went to pick them up from her ex-husband, she was blocked from seeing them by a court order issued while she was still overseas.
“You’d think common sense would make a judge ask ‘Has the mother been served; does she know what’s going on?’ before changing the custody rules,” the Hawaii-based soldier said. “But apparently not.”
House lawmakers for the last few years have been fighting unsuccessfully for better protections for military parents who are deployed and again this summer passed legislation to prohibit courts from making custody changes while a servicemember is overseas.
But it’s unlikely to become law, congressional officials said, because of the Defense Department’s continued opposition to the measure.
Meanwhile, family law experts say they continue to see hundreds of cases in which troops finishing combat rotations return home to angry custody battles and unsympathetic judges, who see long tours overseas as an obstacle to providing a stable home for children.
“The court system is still stacked against members of the military who deploy,” said Mathew Tully, whose legal practice specializes in military rights cases. “A little common sense is coming into the system now, but it is still horrible.”
Attorneys for Tolbe’s ex-husband say they’ll argue in court that his petition for custody of their sons — 8-year-old Jackson and 10-year-old Jordan — has nothing to do with her time deployed, instead centering on matters of stability and who can best provide for the children.
But Tolbe believes the courts in Hawaii and Tennessee never would have allowed the moves if she was in country to fight against them.
“I should never have been in this situation,” she said. “I may lose my children, and all because I had to leave them to go to Iraq.”
The military does not keep statistics on how many troops are involved in custody fights, but Army records show more than 20,000 troops in the ranks last year were single parents.
That’s nearly one in every 16 soldiers whose off-duty hours are spent raising children alone, and in some cases fighting with former spouses about how best to do it.
Two years ago, Congress extended parts of the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act to military child custody cases, prohibiting judgments against parents while they are deployed and allowing more time for returning troops to respond to such challenges.
But those changes don’t always include legal challenges like the one Tolbe faced, where a temporary custody order was issued and amended. Tully, himself a Guardsman, said another hurdle is that different states have different standards for custody cases, and not all of them are military friendly.
“I had a case two years ago where the judge wanted my client to swear that he wasn’t going to be deployed again if he were to get joint custody of his child,” he said. “The judge told me, ‘I don’t care about the father, I care about the child.’ ”
Rep. Mike Turner, R-Ohio, has pushed for the last four years for rules that would reset any temporary custody orders upon a servicemember’s return to the States, in order to protect military parents’ rights.
“(Defense) Secretary (Robert) Gates has said he doesn’t want service to your country to be a disadvantage to families,” he said. “In this, they’re becoming disadvantaged.”
Language that would forbid courts from altering any existing custody agreement while a military parent is deployed and set an end for temporary orders was included in the House version of the 2010 Defense Authorization Bill.
But similar proposals have been ignored by the Senate for the last four years. Turner said that’s due to opposition from the Defense Department officials, who have told lawmakers that it should be an issue handled by individual states.
But at the Pentagon, officials say they’ve taken no stance on the matter, although they have categorized the number of families affected by deployment custody battles as a small fraction of the total force.
This spring, Turner confronted Gates on the issue during a House Armed Services Committee hearing, and received a promise that he would confirm that military officials aren’t blocking the bill. Months later, Turner said he still hasn’t received any response or support for the proposal.
A long fight ahead?
In August, Turner hosted a rally on Capitol Hill to build support for the proposal, noting that he’s still hopeful Congress can get the measure passed this year. With him was Kentucky National Guard member Lt. Eva Slusher, who spent two years and $25,000 to regain custody of her daughter after a post-deployment legal fight with her ex-husband.
“Going into my deployment, I assumed the law protected me from something like that,” she said. “It protects your job while you’re away. It doesn’t protect custody of your children?”
Slusher said she gets several letters a week from parents in similar situations looking for sympathy and advice. Looking back now, she still can’t see any changes that would have prevented her from facing a custody fight.
Before deploying, she got a court order mandating her daughter’s time with her ex-husband was only a temporary arrangement. Courts still opted to leave the teen with her father for two years while the process dragged on.
“Every time I went to court, I thought it was just a formality,” she said. “I kept thinking there was no way they could rule against a mother because she was serving her country.”
Tolbe hopes her own fight won’t take as long as Slusher’s. Before she returned from her latest deployment, Tolbe’s ex-husband, a soldier himself, started making legal moves to get full custody of the boys. In March, Tolbe agreed to a temporary order allowing her sons to stay in Tennessee through the end of the school year, but vowing to fight after that.
Now more legal delays will have them start the 2009 school year there as well. Her attorneys say Tolbe likely won’t get a chance to lay out her arguments in court until December, because a Tennessee judge recently declined to fast-track the case.
Until then, she retains some visitation rights and could get temporary custody again if her ex-husband deploys. But she’s also facing the possibility of another overseas deployment in the near future, and could have to give up the boys again even if she wins her court case.
She has considered filing a family care plan to make herself nondeployable, but such a move would effectively end her military career.
“I am moping around my home, crying periodically,” she said. “I only have six more years until retirement, but in the same breath I don’t know if I can just roll over and give up custody of my kids.
“I don’t know why I am put in the position to make this decision.”